Although they may have been in a band together in 50 years, Paul Stanley and Gene Simmons are not always in rhythm with each other on a personal level. But during the recent KISS Kruise, Stanley opened up to the audience about his relationship with Simmons and how he’s found a way to accept the things about his cohort that used to drive him crazy, and it’s great advice that we could all apply to our own lives .
“We’re very different, but we definitely share a pride in what we do, a work ethic. Maybe because our parents came from Europe, where I think those are important things, that pride in the work you do and to work hard for your money,” began Stanley (as transcribed by Blabbermouth). “Besides that, I think one of the things it took me a long time to learn—and I think, by the way, Gene… I mean, he’s family to me; he’s a brother. I remember there were things about him that used to drive me crazy.”
Speaking about how he dealt with some of the issues he felt with Simmons, Stanley continued, “I realized it’s not his problem; it’s my problem. When people do things and it bothers you, you have to figure out why it bothers you Don’t expect them to change It’s not about them And things that used to bother me about Gene I just had to figure out, “Wait a minute. It’s my problem that bothers me. And why does it bother me?’ Because he can only be the best he can be; he will never be me and I will never be him. So it’s just a matter of putting a lot of that stuff aside. We don’t want to change anyone else, so we need to figure out why it’s bothering us.”
Simmons echoed some of the same sentiments in a 2017 interview with Goldmine Magazine, explaining her relationship with Stanley, “You have to find out that the person next to you is not you. So sometimes you don’t understand why I might have a different appetite than him,” referring to his desire about shopping, producing records and making films. But he later added of Stanley, “We have a better relationship today because you live and you learn.”
He would later go on to comment on their shared work ethic, explaining, “You understand that despite all that, we both share a great work ethic, we show up on time and get the job done, and we never”Axel Rose‘ our way out of anything. I think in the same way that a ‘Kardashian’ became a 72-day long reference, I think Axl deserves that thing that could become a verb, ‘Don’t let yourself out of this thing.’ I think that’s appropriate.”