Advice from a Divorce Attorney: What You Should Know If You’re Considering Divorce –

We always see a wealth of great advice in the comments on Corporette (which you can see by visiting our best threadjack sitewhich we update continuously), and the other day a reader who is a lawyer shared some good advice for people who have decided to divorce. She was inspired to offer her tips after seeing another reader’s question on the topic.

Readers who have gone through a divorce, what advice would you like to share? What surprised you about the process – positive and/or negative aspects? If you have children, do you have any tips to help them through the process?

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Tips if you are considering divorce

Here’s what this lawyer reader, A, wishes her clients would do:

This was her top tip: Before you tell your spouse that you are considering a divorce, talk to a lawyer. Prepare a list of your assets Before you tell your spouse, including current account balances.

Don’t make any big moves until you talk to a lawyer. The reader shared examples of self-help such as locking your spouse out of the house, emptying joint accounts and taking your children or sending them out of the country.

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Be realistic about what your divorce will mean legally – and again, A recommended talking to a lawyer to help with this. She wrote that many of her female clients assume they will be able to keep the family at home, gain primary physical custody of the children, avoid paying alimony or child support and/or force their spouse to move out, and so on .

And as you can guess from her advice so far, A’s final tip is: You should get a lawyer.

We quote her directly here:

This obviously does not apply to a couple of 22-year-olds without children who share an apartment with a lease that is about to expire. And it certainly doesn’t apply to every situation where abuse is going on (in which case, PLEASE call the police both for your protection and because abuse allegations that come up for the first time late in a contested divorce can be problematic). But for the demographic of this board, unless you have to leave now for your own safety, please talk to a lawyer FIRST.

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Further reading:

  • Financial tips and advice for women going through a divorce [MassMutual]
  • 5 Critical Steps to Help Women Prepare Financially for Divorce [Kiplinger]
  • Q&A: Navigating the New Landscape of LGBTQ Divorces [UCLA Newsroom]
  • I’m a Mom and a Divorce Lawyer: Here’s What I Wish All Parents Knew [Parents]
  • 23 of the Best Nonfiction Divorce Books for Healing, Support, and Guidance [Book Riot]

Readers, please share: If you’ve been divorced or are going through a divorce now, what advice would you give other readers? What lessons did you learn during the process and what actions were you glad you took? Any books or online support groups to recommend?

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