5 Effective Ways I Find Focus in a Busy Season of Life | Knowledge and joy

Our November theme at Wit & Delight is about building – and maintaining – a sense of focus. It’s about saying “no” more often so we can say “yes” to the things that actually matter. It’s about giving our energy to the things we actively choose and letting go of the things we don’t.

Although of course it isn’t always possible, I’ve been trying to implement this mindset much more often in my life lately. I have actively asked myself, What can I say no to? What limits can I set?

Today I’m sharing a few of the tangible ways I’m finding focus right now, during a very busy season in my life. Even if the practices below don’t *all* apply to you, I hope you still find some takeaways you can implement in your own life.

5 ways I’m finding focus right now

1. Less rushing

I have a deeply ingrained tendency to rush through things, even when I don’t actually need to be in a hurry. I rush through the process of getting ready, rush through errands, rush through chopping vegetables – you name it, I rush. The thing is, I actually don’t will have being rushed – or feeling the resulting confused sensation – especially in situations where it is unnecessary. When I feel like I’m rushing for no reason, I try to take note of it, intentionally decide if it’s actually necessary, and slow down if it’s not.

2. Less perfection

Throughout the first half of November, at least one person in our household has been sick with some kind of nasty virus (not COVID, thankfully!). It has taken a toll on all of us and it has made me realize that some things have to give. Because of this, we have been less focused on things that need to be “perfect” in our homes, especially before we go to bed. Joe and I will clean up a bit if necessary, but otherwise we’ll turn off the lights and go to bed. Especially in this season of life, the focus on quality rest has been much more important than a perfectly put together home.

3. Less attachment to things

The lessons from me freezing of expenses is still very present in my life, especially when it comes to clothes and accessories. Most of my shopping is done online, and while I’ve found myself ordering more than I did earlier this year, I’ve also found myself returning more. I’ve become much less attached to specific things and much more comfortable saying “no” to things that aren’t for me. I have also become more comfortable with a slower shopping process. The slower approach takes more energy and time, but it tends to lead to things I really want and want to wear in the long run.

4. More focus on the present

This focus on less attachment has also extended beyond my spending habits. I’ve also used it in other areas of life, especially when it comes to results I’m seeking or goals I’m pursuing. I’ve tried to keep these things very light, not overcomplicate them and not talk myself out of decisions I’ve already made.

In my daily life, what has helped me the most in this area is practicing active meditation – paying attention to what is happening in the present instead of worrying so much about the past or the future. My wandering mind is the root of much of my anxiety, which is why focusing on the present is so important.

In my daily life, what has helped me the most in this area is practicing active meditation – paying attention to what is happening in the present instead of worrying so much about the past or the future.

5. More confidence

I was recently thinking about last Thanksgiving (and the entire holiday season in general). Looking back on last year, I really overdid it. I felt like I had to do more, more, more to make the whole season special for my family and everyone else we spent time with.

The reality is that I can plan a few simple things (and ask for help from others) and the resulting experience will be absolutely amazing in its own right. I can trust the process, trust myself, and trust that what we choose to focus on in this busy season of life will be enough.

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