Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn keep their relationship very private, but they do occasionally give a little insight into their domestic life. On Friday, Nov. 25, Alwyn shared a photo on his Instagram Stories of what appears to be his ankle and a black and white tabby cat snuggled up to it. The cat reportedly belongs to Taylor Swift and his name is Benjamin.
The rest of his stories are from different times and scenes, especially on set, so it’s unclear if the photo was taken during this Thanksgiving weekend or just a flashback to another cozy time. The couple have been dating since 2016 and left minimal evidence of their relationship online or in the form of paparazzi photos. Swift is known for her songs about past relationships, but she only hints at her and Alwyn’s connection. He co-wrote some songs with her on recent albums folkloric and foreverunder the pseudonym William Bowery, which they worked on together during the pandemic lockdown.
But Swift said straight up that her new song is on Midnights titled “Lavender Haze”, deals squarely with Alwyn and the public’s scrutiny of their romantic visages.
“I came across the phrase ‘Lavender Haze’ when I was watching Mad Men and I looked it up because I thought it sounded cool,” she said. “It turns out it was a common phrase used in the ’50s where they would just describe being in love. Like, if you were in the ‘Lavender Haze,’ it meant you were in the all-encompassing glow of love, and I thought that was really beautiful.”
Swift continued: “Theoretically, I think when you’re in the lavender haze, you want to do everything you can to stay there and not let people bring you down from that cloud. I think a lot of people have to relate to this now, not just ‘public figures’ because we live in the era of social media, if the world finds out that you have a crush on someone, they are going to value it.
“We’ve had to dodge weird rumors, tabloid stuff, and we just ignore it,” she concluded. “This song is kind of about the act of ignoring those things to protect the real things.”
Aimée Lutkin is weekend editor at ELLE.com. Her writing has appeared in Jezebel, Glamour, Marie Claire and more. Her first book, The lone hunter, will be published by Dial Press in February 2022.