Selena Gomez My mind and me documentary was shot over six years, covering her life from 2016 to the present. During that time, Gomez and Justin Bieber broke up their 10-year on-off romance forever, where Gomez will also enter Justin’s quick engagement to Hailey Bieber in July 2018, just months after Gomez and Bieber ended their romantic relationship that March. But Justin was barely mentioned in the doc. and only once by name of Gomez.
Focus on My mind and me is her mental and physical health journey that she learned about her bipolar disorder diagnosis and survived an episode of psychosis in 2018.
Still, Justin — and really Gomez’s love life in general — was a big presence in the 2016 and 2019 installments of the film. Here’s where he was introduced — and how the documentary showed Gomez moving past him in private.
In the 2016 part, when she practiced for Resuscitation tour, Gomez name-dropped Justin…and how she wanted to be alone enough.
A lot of My mind and mefilming took place in 2019 and beyond, but the project originally began in 2016 under Gomez’s Resuscitation trip. After exercise, Gomez is very down about her performance and mentioned that she was afraid that she was not seen as enough on her own.
That’s when she alludes to a potential collaboration with Justin, which was ultimately not released. (Teen Vogue speculated that this was the 2015 duet “Strong,” which was leaked but ultimately never released.) Speaking about the head of her record company, John Janick, she said through tears: “I don’t know what John thinks, I want to talk to John. I don’t want to disappoint John. I don’t want him to think that he’s signed to some fucking Disney kid. It’s just too bad, too, because of the whole thing with the song. He called me this morning about the song with Justin, like, when am I just going to be good enough on my own? When I just be good enough on my own and don’t need anyone to be associated with?”
Friends around her reassured her, “you already are.”
Paparazzi footage of Gomez throughout the film showed paps asking her about Justin.
Gomez would not mention Justin by name again for the rest of the film. But director Alek Keshishian wisely included paparazzi footage that brought into sharp focus just how obsessed the public and press were with bringing up this relationship. Especially in the 2016 part, paparazzi asked Gomez extremely personal questions about Justin, which she simply ignored, such as: “Did Justin Bieber make you go to rehab?”, “Justin has a new girlfriend. Are you jealous, Selena?”, ” Did you go back to drinking? Selena, where’s the alcohol?”, and “How are you doing with Justin? Are you depressed?”
Later in the film, when focusing on “Lose You to Love Me”, paparazzi footage is shown again, with a dad asking Gomez, “Any comments on Justin Bieber’s engagement?”
Gomez talked about moving on from Justin’s breakup when he released “Lose You to Love Me” and how the split was “the best thing that ever happened.”
Justin’s last appearance in the doctor came when Gomez discussed release “Lost You To Love Me”– her wedding song about him. This was the last time her love life was really referenced in the film, as the rest of it was about her mental health recovery and finding her purpose.
Discussing being ready to write about the experience, Gomez said, “I texted Julia Michaels and Justin Tranter and said I think I’m ready to just say I’m sorry. We wrote the song in 45 minutes, the fastest song I’ve ever written. It’s about more than just a lost love. It’s me learning to choose myself, to choose life, but also to hope that people can too find grace and peace in it.”
“The song is about knowing that you’ve completely lost every part of who you are, only to rediscover yourself again,” she continued. “Everything was so public. I felt haunted by a past relationship that no one wanted to let go of. But then I just moved past it and I wasn’t afraid anymore.”
“I feel like I had to go through the worst heartbreak ever and then just forget everything at the drop of a hat, it was really confusing,” she added. “But I just think it was meant to happen and in the end it was the best thing that ever happened to me.”
Keshishian asked her to repeat it. She first playfully declined, then confirmed: “It was the best thing that ever happened to me, yeah”
You can see My mind and me on Apple TV+ now here.
Alyssa Bailey is senior news and strategy editor at ELLE.com, where she oversees celebrity and royal coverage (especially Meghan Markle and Kate Middleton). She has previously held positions at With style and Cosmopolitan. When she’s not working, she loves running around Central Park, getting people to take #ootd pictures of her, and exploring New York City.