Meghan Markle may have held back on details of the highly publicized pre-wedding fight she and Kate Middleton had over flower girl dresses during her Oprah interview, but Prince Harry is now filling in the blanks. Page six shared his personal account of the situation his forthcoming memoir Spare parts, which explains exactly why Meghan ended up in tears after having a conversation with Kate just four days before the couple’s wedding.
The dispute centered on Kate’s daughter Princess Charlotte’s flower girl dress fitting. Daily Mail alleged that Harry wrote that Meghan said Kate, who had given birth to Prince Louis just a month before the wedding, had “baby brain” which contributed to what happened.
According to Page sixHarry wrote that Kate texted Meghan the week of the wedding saying there was a “problem” with Charlotte’s dress, made by then-Givenchy creative director Clare Waight Keller, who also created Meghan’s wedding dress.
The girls’ “French haute couture dresses [were] hand sewn based solely on [the bridesmaids’] target,” Harry wrote, so the fact that they needed adjustments wasn’t exactly a surprise.
Meghan replied to Kate, asking her to take Charlotte to the palace, where a tailor was “waiting to make alterations for all six bridesmaids.” Page six wrote that Harry shared. Harry claimed this response was “not sufficient” for Kate, who asked for time to speak to Meghan herself.
During their talk, Kate reportedly told Meghan that Charlotte’s dress was “too big, long and baggy,” and Charlotte “broke down in tears when she tried it on.” Meghan reiterated that Kate should take Charlotte to the tailor at the palace. Kate then replied that all the bridesmaids’ dresses had to be “completely redesigned” and that she had consulted her own wedding dress designer, Alexander McQueen’s Sarah Burton, about it. The wedding was only four days away at this point.
In the end, Kate took Charlotte to the tailor, but the “argument” she had with Meghan really hurt the bride-to-be, Harry wrote. He said he found Meghan crying “on the floor” afterwards. As Meghan herself previously revealed to Oprah, Kate apologized and brought Meghan flowers and a card the next day.
In her 2021 Oprah interview, Meghan discussed how hard it was for her to watch the tabloids spin this story to make Kate cry. Meghan’s details are consistent with what Harry himself shared in his memoirs, albeit purposefully more vague to protect Kate’s privacy.
Meghan told Oprah: “The story with Kate that didn’t happen was really, really difficult and something that I think that’s when everything really changed.”
“None. [I didn’t make Kate cry]” she continued. “No, no, the reverse happened. And I’m not saying that to put anyone down because it was a really rough week with the wedding and she was upset about something, but she owned it and she apologized and she brought me flowers and a note saying apologized and she did what I would do if I knew I hurt someone. Just taking responsibility for it.
“What was shocking was, what, six, seven months after our wedding, the reverse of that would be out in the world [the story suggesting Meghan made Kate cry]. I would never have wanted it to come out about her, even if it had. I protected it from ever being out in the world. A few days before the wedding she was upset about something about – yes, the question was correct about flower girl dresses and it made me cry and it really hurt my feelings and I thought in the context of everything else that was going on. in the days leading up to the wedding, it didn’t make sense not to just do what everyone else was doing, trying to be supportive, knowing what was going on with my dad and what wasn’t.
“There wasn’t a confrontation and I actually think it’s…I don’t think it’s fair to her to get into the details of it because she apologized and I’ve forgiven her,” Meghan admitted. “What was hard to get over was being blamed for something that not only I didn’t do, but that happened to me and the people who were part of my wedding who went to my communications team and said, ‘” I know it didn’t. Spoon. I don’t have to tell them what actually happened, but at least I can write that she didn’t make her cry.’” Everyone in the institution knew that wasn’t true. I am not sharing that piece about Kate in any way to disparage her. I think it’s really important for people to understand the truth, but I also think a lot of it was fed into the media. Look, I would hope she would have wanted it fixed. And maybe in the same way that the palace wouldn’t let anyone else turn it down, they wouldn’t let her because she’s a good person, and I think so much of what I’ve seen play out was this idea about polarity where if you love me you don’t have to hate her and if you love her you don’t have to hate me.”
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Alyssa Bailey is senior news and strategy editor at ELLE.com, where she oversees celebrity and royal coverage (especially Meghan Markle and Kate Middleton). She has previously held positions at With style and Cosmopolitan. When she’s not working, she loves running around Central Park, getting people to take #ootd pictures of her, and exploring New York City.